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I’ve been thinking a lot about online petitions after seeing someone I know from my hometown sign a petition for something going on in my current town, knowing that they had no ties or personal stake in the matter; they just like dogs. The petition, taken at face value, was for a large sized dog that was schedule to be euthanized by my local animal control. The petition states that the dog merely “bit a dog” and happened to bite the owner of the other dog because they tried to break it up. The article says “the dog had no previous history of biting and, for the most part, [is]a gentle soul.”
I thought about how I would typically sign something like this, because of course I think dogs (and people) should be rehabilitated and not killed. But then I stopped and thought about how well I know the animal control officer in question and how they would never make the choice to euthanize a dog if they did not feel that it was the “right choice.” There are a lot of things to consider and I know that isn’t an easy choice. I’m not writing about this to dispute the decision, it just made me think about how important it is to know the facts before blindly supporting something. It turns out, what is not in the article is that the dog in question attacked another dog and severely injured the owner of the dog. The person attacked by the dog in question has had to have multiple surgeries and suffers from serious nerve damage from the attack.
I guess I just wanted to share this for a few reasons:
1) Make sure you know what you are supporting before you support it. This is just one example of how some important information was left out of one person’s plea. Stories always have two sides, what is being represented to you and how is it being skewed to sway your opinion?
2) If you own a dog, please, please, please take the time to make sure it is trained and you can control it. One time I tried to walk a friend’s pitbull with my pitbull mix and the two of them together were dragging me across the park. Literally. I realized, okay- I can never do that again. Even though my dog is only 30lbs, she is very strong and I have to take in to account that I can not own (or walk!) another dog of similar strength if it pulls on the leash because I won’t physically be able to control them together. She can also be aggressive with other dogs and around food, I make sure that there is never any food around if she is with another dog and I do not approach other dogs on the street because I don’t know how she will react. If your dog is stressed or anxious it might bite to protect itself. All dogs are different and many rescue dogs have their own baggage. Take time to understand what that is and know them well enough to anticipate situations that might cause them to act out. I can anticipate Scout’s aggressive behavior based on her body language, so if I do need to interfere I can.
3) Lastly, I feel like animal control officer’s are often portrayed as mean people who want to take animals away from their owners. I can’t speak to anywhere else, but I know the animal control officers here very well and they spend so much of their time rescuing homeless and hurt animals. Typically animals are not taken away from their homes, unless the animal is not being properly cared for and/or the home is not fit for the animal for other reasons. Animals are not typically euthanized unless they are seen as unsafe for the community and re-homing them doesn’t seem to be an option due to their aggressive past (so many animals are looking for homes in shelters or rescues, new families looking for pets are unlikely to adopt a dog who has aggression issues). Our local animal control officers even take surrendered animals and help place them in no-kill shelters or rescues. They are animal lovers, too.
I am surprised by how much sex I have had in my life that I didn’t want to have. Not exactly what’s considered “real” rape, or “date” rape, although it is a kind of rape of the spirit - a dishonest portrayal or distortion of my own desire in order to appease another person.
I said yes because I felt it was too much trouble to say no. I said yes because I didn’t want to have to defend my “no,” qualify it, justify it - deserve it. I said yes because I thought I was so ugly and fat that I should just take sex every time it was offered, because who knew when it would be offered again. I said yes to partners I never wanted in the first place, because to say no at any point after saying yes for so long would make our entire relationship a lie, so I had to keep saying yes in order to keep the “no” I felt a secret. That is such a messed-up way to live, such an awful way to love.
So these days, I say yes only when I mean yes. It does require some vigilance on my part to make sure I don’t just go on sexual automatic pilot and let people do whatever. It forces me to be really honest with myself and others. It makes me remember that loving myself is also about protecting myself and defending my own borders. I say yes to me."
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